Being nice is not enough sometimes. It is not enough for you to just be a nice person or a good person . You may wonder what I mean by this statement but its the fact. Sometimes we come across people who are so calm and nice but they have one major flaw that makes their nice character look useless. It is not enough for you to be in a relationship with anyone just because the person is nice. Outside being nice, there are certain responsibilities we all have and if your partner is not able to meet up with those things, then you have a major problem.
It’s funny though when you ask some folks why they are dating whoever they are dating and their response is “he’s such a nice person” or “she’s such a nice person”. Now let me state this clearly being nice in reality would not sustain a relationship. I realise a good attitude is a very important factor in the sustainance of a relationship, however it is the only factor.
How would you cope with a nice person who refuses to go to work and decides to just be at home? How would you cope with a nice person who has no dreams or has very little dreams? How would you cope with a nice person whose thoughts never align with yours? How would you cope with a nice person who would never stand up to his responsibilities and wants you to understand? How would you cope with a nice person who talks too much and can never keep a secret? Have you forgotten that every single human being on earth, be it a pastor, physiotherapist, motivational speaker etc has a major flaw that can make light of their strengths. Some folks fall into the trap of being in a relationship with someone because of the illusion of ‘a nice person’ is all I need. Nice or not nice, be with someone whose shortcoming you can accomodate.
As for the ‘so-called nice people, you cant just go about carrying an invisible tag that says I’m nice, everywhere you go. You have certain responsibilities in your home, work etc. Ensure that you fufill those responsibilities.
For the umpteenth time, I say ‘being nice is not enough’. Wisdom is the principal thing.