People say that they love themselves all the time. Bookstores’ aisles are flooded with the latest praises for self-love and self-acceptance. Still, the charge to “love yourself” is often dismissed. Maya Angelou once warned, “I do not trust people who do not love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
It’s true that those who do not unequivocally love themselves aren’t fully living. How can they be of benefit to others when they suffer from a hole in their own hearts? Researchers have found that self-love and self-compassion make for a better quality of life. Those who authentically love themselves are better able to parent, stay in relationships, protect themselves emotionally and pursue fulfilling careers.
Our internal script and belief about ourselves should be supportive, honest and above all kind. Silent, corrosive thoughts such as: “I don’t know if I can handle this” or “I’ve made so many mistakes” only serve to disconnect us from our innate strength. As it’s been said, you deserve the love that you keep trying to give away to the world. A full life requires an unabashed love of ourselves; we must be our ultimate ally. Our flaws, our trials, our heartaches are included in our totality.
To finally love ourselves requires the deepest commitment to seeing ourselves as worthy, whole and worth the wait. Its long overdue. Remember, the greatest thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself. So, in showing love to others today, do not forget to love yourself as well.
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Courtesy: T.D Jakes