Health, Motivation

How To Overcome Stress

Burden. Overload. Stress. Do these words describe the way you feel about life? If that’s the case, I want you to know you’re not alone. And with God’s help, you can change your outlook and overcome your situation. No matter what’s going on around you, you can have a life in Christ filled with peace and joy.

1. Say something positive. If you constantly feel overwhelmed or under stress and you can’t pinpoint the exact reason, start making some Biblical daily confessions. Rather than getting up each day, talking about how bad things are, begin each day declaring God’s Word and His promises over your life. I am more than a conqueror! (Romans 8:37) God will provide for my every need! (Matthew 6:26) I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! (Philippians 4:13)

2. Fine-tune your budget. If your finances are a source of constant stress in your life, decide to start a budget (or reevaluate your current budget). What is something practical you can do to solve the problem? Cut an expense that is a luxury but not a necessity. Look for a new way to make some additional money. Ask someone who is good with finances to take a look at your budget and give you some suggestions.

3. Do something surprising. If there is someone who is driving up your stress levels by constantly hurting your feelings, do something nice for them—send them a kind note, buy them lunch, tell them something you appreciate about them, or begin praying for them on a regular basis. By doing these little things you are taking steps of faith and obeying God’s command to love your enemies.

4. Upgrade your energy level. If a nagging health problem is leaving you feeling stressed out and run down, start an exercise routine. No more excuses. Set aside time each day to get the exercise and care your body desperately needs. Rather than making excuses, make a plan…and stick to it. You may think that you simply don’t have the energy to exercise. You feel too bad, or you’re too tired. But I often find when I go ahead and begin to exercise that I start to feel better. Exercise takes energy, but it gives you back more energy than it takes!

5. Get out of your rut. If the demands of work are overwhelming and causing you to feel overloaded, do something about it. Delegate some tasks, reevaluate your systems or talk to your boss. (Your boss may not even realize how much you are doing or how it is negatively affecting your personal life.) Instead of complaining how overworked you are, look for ways to be more efficient and how to make the most of your time each day.

These are just a few examples, but as you can see, there are so many ways you can step out in faith in order to live the life Jesus died to give you.

Health, Relationship

8 Types Of Libido That Spouses Have

Why do you lay so much emphasis on sex and sexuality? From my opinion, I think sex is a basic thing; why give so much attention to it?’ This was a question I was asked while I was in South Africa giving a talk on sex and sexual health matters.

The first big misconception many people have is thinking that sex is basic and natural and should not be learnt. It is as a result of this discourse that sex education has long been obstructed as if it is not necessary to understand the mechanisms at which it works. Then again, this has caused a lot of damages to many homes.

In reality, sex is cultural; it is the fruit of a learning process and it is something we all have to learn. Until we start learning, we might not be able to unravel the mechanism behind the female’s sexuality or the way the erection functions.

As such, today, we want to see seven ways couples can enjoy instant raging passion by being able to differentiate various types of libidos. I would advise you read this together with your spouse, so that both of you can find out which area you fall into. So, let us look into the arousal types of libidos.

The Sensual Libido Spouse.
This is a spouse who wants sex to be emotional, connecting and superficially physical. The spouse cherishes love play more than the actual sexual acts. This category of spouses is more of introvert lovers than extroverts. Bu the erotic libido spouses are spouses who want sexto be intense and passionate, at least some of the times. They want to explore all the wondrous varieties of sexual activities that are available. Though they can cope with periods of ordinary s*x, there are regular opportunities for adventurous and sizzling s*x. If you have a strong erotic libido, you get little or no pleasure from low key sex and this might cause problems in the relationship, because your partner might start feeling the pressure to perform at great heights all the time, which is never good.

The Dependent Libido Spouses 
They are spouses who need sex to cope with problems. Sex soothes them and makes them feel better. They are more sexually active when they have to deal with bad feelings such as stress, boredom or anxiety, pressure, loss of loved one, when they are sick or troubled. When such spouse does not have an understanding partner, the relationship is always under undue pressure because in such cases, if your partner doesn’t want to do it when you want because you are in an emotional state, you might tend to interpret it as lack of love and care. It would look like she or he is refusing to give you the medicine you need to… feel better. The reactive libido spouses are spouses who care more about the sexual needs of their partner. They sometimes even end up ignoring their own desires if they feel they are not what their partner usually enjoys. These spouses put a lot of effort into foreplay and can only climax once they are sure their wives have.

The Entitled Libido Spouses
These are spouses who assume that it’s their God’s given right to get whatever they want in their sexual relationship, regardless of the feeling of the other partner. Their mindset is, ‘If I want hot steamy sex, I should be given the opportunity to have hot steamy sex and if on the contrary, I want cuddling, my partner should provide me with just that.’ This category of spouses is very influenced by the ideas of sex in movies and books and they think they are entitled to have the same great sex as they watch on the screen.

The Addictive Libido Spouses

Even though this is a destructive type of libido, spouses with this type believe that until they have sex outside their matrimonial bed, they are not having the best of sex. Their problem is that they can’t seem to resist the urge of having sex outside their relationship. It’s not as if they don’t love and cherish their partners, it is just that they are constantly craving for more elusive sex. These spouses are filled with the mirage that marital sex is boring compared to the dangerous allure of doing it with a complete stranger or animal. Like any addiction, you are the one that controls the behaviours and not vice versa. So, instead of destroying your relationship, family, marriage and life, make up your mind to live clean, have a positive mindset towards the best things in life.

The Stressed Libido Spouses.
Such spouses are always on their toes, constantly worrying about their performance and about whether what they are doing is pleasurable or not. They tend to avoid having sex for fear of failure, even though they might still be very aroused. In fact, they kill their sex life before its actual death. These are the people who worry about no or low libido, erectile dysfunction and so on. But if you can take this unnecessary worry off, you can enjoy the sexual pleasure wholeheartedly.

The Disinterested Libido Spouses 
These are spouses with naturally low libido. They practically have no physical or emotional problem with having sex; they just seem not to be in the mood. If you’re one of those, you might develop feelings of guilt and defence because you’re not able to satisfy your partner. However, you must accept that you have not chosen to be a disinterested libido type. But for the sake of your spouse, you must learn the act of building your libido just as when people go to the gym to build up their body muscles.

The Detached Libido Spouses
These are spouses who usually feel sexual desire but are too preoccupied with other life issues to seek marital s*x. Being overwhelmed by financial or work pressure, you might think that sex is the last thing on your list right now, but be aware that this attitude does more wrong than good to the relationship. The compulsive libido spouses are spouses who have one main sexual body object or image object that triggers their sexual arousal. That is, a particular feature or shape or image in their spouse’s body is the only thing that will arouse them. For such people, just mere looking at the bosom of their spouse or the smell of their spouse’s underwears or the shape of their spouse’s vulva or man-hood or their spouse’s moaning or the colour of their spouse’s underwear, could trigger their arousal.

Zero Libido Spouses
This category may also have spouses who previously had good or enough libido for satisfying s*xual relationship but along the way, some illness or aliment that were either not well treated medically, eventually had an effect on their libido. Such ailments include mumps, which is in most cases, a childhood infection. This infection is usually a virus infection which most of the time, has no medical cure, and as such, treatment is being given according to the symptoms it presented per time. When a male child is not well protected against these mumps infection, the resultant effect is usually that the virus would spread all over the body and would damage the testicle, scrotum of the male child. Unfortunately, the damaging effect is impotency. Sometimes, erectile dysfunction does not usually present itself until when the man is an adult or a young adult. And one of the ways the man feels the effect is when he doesn’t have a feel of libido at all.

Funmi Akingbade


How To Live Long If You Have A Heart Disease

When talking about heart conditions, doctors use the terms coronary heart disease (CHD) and the broader cardiovascular disease (CVD).

CHD is used for any condition that affects heart function. CVD refers to both coronary heart disease and diseases of the circulation, such as stroke , when a clot blocks blood supply to the brain. Stroke is the country’s third biggest killer, claiming 70,000 lives each year. Most doctors now prefer to use the term CVD because it’s the major cause of premature death in the UK, causing around 32 per cent of premature deaths in men and 28 per cent in women.

One person in Britain dies from heart disease every three minutes – making us one of the world’s worst countries for this problem.

Types of Heart Disease
*Heart Attack

*Congenital Heart Disease 

*Heart Attack


Heart problems, such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and cardiovascular disease often emerge as your heart adjusts to aging. The good news? You can do a lot to control and sometimes reverse these conditions by making lifestyle changes in your life. Here are creative things you can do that will not only help your condition but give you more energy so you can feel better and live longer.

Exercise can help lower your biological age.

Your heart is a muscle and it needs its exercise or it will grow soft and flabby. Getting started in exercise — especially if you aren’t at your peak form right now — can be mentally and physically challenging.

First, talk with your doctor and get specific guidelines for how much exercise you should do, and how to recognize the signs of overexertion.

Next, find a gym that has personal trainers. The trainer can help make sure that your efforts are going to pay off, and that you are doing the exercises correctly.

Hire a Registered Dietitian or Nutritionist

You will probably only need one or two consultations with a dietitian to learn volumes about what you are eating, what you should be eating and why. To get the most out of your visit, bring two or three days of food logs with you. A food log is simply a record of everything you eat or drink in a day, the times you ate or drank it and the amounts. This will help the nutritionist tailor a program to your life.

Banish Your Food Enemies

We all have food enemies. Maybe yours are cookies, ice cream, chips or candy? If you can’t avoid temptation, banish these items from your house, your car, and your office, and avoid eating them on a regular basis.

Relax a Little

Stress constricts your blood vessels, and this makes it harder for your heart to pump blood through your body. Relax, let the events of the day wash over you and consider earning relaxation breathing. When something bothers you, try to keep the big picture in mind: Ask yourself, will the stress triggers matter five years from now? Will you even remember them?


Smiling does all sorts of good for your body. You can actually trick your body and mind into being happy by smiling. Put a smile on your face while standing in line, driving or writing e-mails: You’ll be amazed at the change. Practice by smiling every time you look at a clock. This will add hundreds of smiles to your day!

Learn to Cook

Have you ever been amazed by restaurants? You can walk in, order any one of 70 items off a menu and a few minutes later your meal arrives warm and delicious. It is like a miracle. And the name of that miracle is butter. Restaurants use fats and butter to cover up so-so ingredients, over warming and other sins of necessity. By learning to cook and eating at home, you can be in control of your food. Use fresh ingredients and take some cooking classes.

Monitor and Record

Keeping important information at your fingertip can help your doctors plan the best medical care for you. Monitor your blood pressure weekly, keep your test results in a folder for easy access. Have your cholesterol tested every few months. Keep track of your medical information. Know what medications you are on, who your doctors are and what your medical goals are.

Take Your Medicine

If you doctor has prescribed medicine for you, take it. Figure out what you need to do to to be 100 percent compliant with your doctor’s orders. That means taking your medicine at the right times and following the suggestions. There are some really excellent medications on the market now that have helped millions of people avoid heart attacks and other problems.

Nurture Your Relationships

People with health conditions fare better if they have strong social relationships. Your spouse, friends or family members can be there to help you overcome challenges, make lifestyle changes and assist you if you are ill.

It has also been shown that having close relationships can help reduce stress and improve healing. So, take a second honeymoon, go on a buddy fishing trip, or have a spa day with someone you care about.

Celebrate Life

Life is good. Celebrate the progress you make in creating a healthier you, instead of getting caught in routines and ruts that eat away your days. Carving out time for pleasurable activities can boost your heart health.

Source: informationng


3 Reasons Why Bottled Water May Not Be The Best For You

Though water is the healthiest thing anyone can drink , science suggests that drinking from plastic water bottles might not be the best thing for you or the environment.

Here are reasons you should avoid drinking from plastic water bottles as much as you can:

1. They can release potentially harmful chemicals into your water.

When you expose plastic bottles to heat (such as in a hot car , dishwasher , ultraviolet radiation from the sun or microwaves ), the outer layers can break down. In response, plastics marked with recycle codes 3 or 7 can release a chemical called bisphenol A ( BPA) , while BPA-free plastics can release bisphenol S (BPS) . These can contaminate your water , says Dr . Cheryl Watson , a biochemist at the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston, who’ s done extensive research on human exposure to BPA and BPS.

The problem : When you ingest even small amounts, they mimic oestrogen , which can change the way your endocrine system functions. In humans , exposure has been linked to chronic diseases , including diabetes , asthma, and cancer. Animal studies suggest in utero exposure can ultimately impair development of the brain and immune system of a growing baby , with effects that could be passed down to future generations.

2. Plastic chemicals might make it harder for you to have a baby.

Researchers found that men and women undergoing in-vitro fertilization who had high levels of BPA in their blood , urine, and work environment were less likely to have a successful pregnancy , according to a 2013 review of 91 studies published in
Reproductive Toxicology.

The problem : Although more research is needed, the results suggest that when BPA imitates oestrogen , it interferes with different stages of pregnancy , such as fertilization and implantation, says Dr . Sheela Sathyanarayana, adjunct associate professor of environmental and occupational health sciences at the University of Washington.

3. Plastic chemicals could raise your risk of heart disease and other circulatory issues .

Humans exposed to the highest levels of BPA have an increased risk of heart disease, according to a 2012 study published in Circulation. Researchers think this could be due to BPA ’ s link to high blood pressure, a risk factor for heart disease. After all , the blood pressure of adults who drank from cans containing BPA rose almost immediately in a small but thorough 2015 study published in Hypertension.

The problem : Since BPA and BPS can mimic oestrogen once they get into your system , and high levels of the hormone increase the production of the blood plasma protein, according to Dr . Sathyanarayana, exposure to these chemicals could also lead to blood clotting and related complications like heart events and stroke .

Source: YahooNews

Health, Humour

See How You Can Laugh More Today

Studies show that laughter lowers blood pressure, reduces stress hormones, and boosts immune functions in the body. It cleanses the lungs and body tissues of accumulated stale air since it empties more air out than it takes in.  In addition to these benefits, laughter triggers the release of endorphins — those “feel good” chemicals in the brain that make you feel joyful and elated — and even helps to relieve pain. Endorphins are the same chemicals released when some people, after an extended period of running, get “runners high”.

We should take advantage of every opportunity to have a good hearty laugh.  Humorous situations surround us each day. We just have to be on the lookout for them.
Obama Laughing

Here are some ways to get more laughter into your life:

  • Let people know that you enjoy a good laugh and ask them to share their favorite jokes with you via email, etc.
  • Visit joke sites on the Internet.
  • Plan to attend a live comedy show with a group.
  • Share your embarrassing or humorous moments (let good taste prevail here).
  • Laugh at yourself and your shortcomings, especially on the job. Be a good sport.  When others do imitations of you, laugh and pay attention. It can be a real eye opener to some of your eccentric ways. Don’t allow life’s pressures and negative circumstances to snuff out your sense of humor.
  • Laughter can take your mind off of what’s stressing you, providing temporary emotional relief. 
  • Laughter can improve your social life as well as your marriage or romantic relationship since it makes you more fun to be around; nobody enjoys a sourpuss.

A young man once said “Those who carry a long face don’t live long”. Laugh often and let others find strength in your joy.Hahahahahahahahahahaha…

Contraceptive Pills Side Effects

There are several ways to catch fun but for women taking a pill certainly wouldn’t count as one. This has led to the trending #MyPillStory on twitter. Some folks tend to go through a plethora of struggles when taking pills, mostly because they’ve not been adequately informed on the effects of taking contraceptive pills. However, the effect of contraceptive pills on the human body is nebulous. Hence, there are a couple of ‘good’ effects and the ‘not so good’ effects as well.

Contraceptive Pill, generally referred to as ‘the pill’, is a form of hormonal contraception taken by women to prevent pregnancy. It consists of two types, one of which contains both the estrogen and progesterone (progestin) hormones, while the other called ‘mini pill’ contains only the progesterone hormone.

The Good

Clearer Skin
Black woman with clear skin

Due to the fact that acne is accelerated by high level of male hormones (androgen), balancing it out with female hormones (estrogen & progesterone) can help reduce the break out of pimples on your face.


Less Painful Sex

In a few cases, the pill can increase your vaginal lubrication, thus making sexual intercourse less painful, especially if you had the issue of painful sex before you started taking the pills.

Reduced Risk of Certain Types of Cancer

A study carried out in 2011 showed that incidences of endometrial and ovarian cancers dropped by about 40% among those with a history of HIV, who were on pills. Also, research has shown that women who take the pill may be 20%less likely to contract bowel cancer.

Less Painful Menstrual Cramping

When your body experiences a regular intake of estrogen & progesterone, your periods get on a more predictable schedule. Periods tend to become lighter when you’re on the pill.

Fewer Complications from Anemia

Researchers believe that pills can boost iron levels and the protein molecule hemoglobin in the bloodstream, which can reduce the incidence of anemia.

Combined pill
Combined Pill

The Not So Good

Nausea: Some women tend to feel mild nausea when they first start taking the pill. Taking the pill with after a meal or at bedtime can help in reducing how queasy you feel during the time your body needs to adjust to new levels of estrogen and progesterone. You should seek medical guidance if you have this experience.

Mood Changes

Before taking contraceptive pills, you should ensure that discuss with your doctor if you have a history of mood problems like anxiety and depression. Women with such symptoms tend to see an increase in these mood changes when taking pills. On the hand, even if you don’t have a history of mood swings, you may experience slight changes in your mood when taking pills.

Breast Tenderness
Woman with breast pain holding her breast

Taking pills may lead to enlargement of the breast or tenderness. This can last for up to 18 months while on the pill. If you experience persistent breast tenderness or pain, seek medical help. You should also reduce your salt and caffeine intake in order to stem the tide of breast tenderness. Wearing a supportive bra would also be ideal for you.

Teen woman with headache holding her hand to the head

A study carried out by the American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology in 2005 found that about 10% of women feel headache within a month of starting the pill. The sex hormones have an effect on the development of headaches. Thus, studies have shown that pills which contain low doses of hormones are less likely to cause headaches. In the long run, headaches tend to reduce.

Lower Sex Urge

It has been discovered that some women experience decreased drive for sex while on pills. So don’t be surprised when your wife feels a little uncomfortable with the coital act during the period when she’s on pills. The hormones in the contraceptive pills can affect se drive (libido) in some people. Albeit, it can also cause increased sex drive, in which case you may experience symptoms such as endometriosis and premenstrual syndrome.

Quick Facts about Contraceptive Pills

  • People with a history of blood clots, heart attacks or stroke are best advised to avoid taking a combination of the pill. In other words, if you must take the pill, you should only take the mini pill.
  • In the event that the pill isn’t having any negative side effects on you, you can continue taking it until menopause
  • The US Food and Drug Administration advises that women aged 35 years and above who smoke, should avoid taking a combination of pills.
  • Some women may experience weight gain while taking the pill but this doesn’t cut across all women.
  • People with a history of liver disease, heart disease, uterine cancer, breast cancer, and uncontrolled blood should avoid taking contraceptive pills.
  • The hormones in the pill don’t remain in your body for long, which is why you have to take it every day.
  • Women who miss a pill are have a higher probability of getting pregnant than women who take their pills faithfully.
Woman consulting female Medical Doctor

Above all, consult a qualified health care provider if you are not really sure of the effect the pill could have on you, considering whatever peculiar situation you might have. Seeking medical guidance would help you know the best type of pill to take as well as how to take birth control pills.

Health, Relationship

18+ : 5 Ways To Control Addiction to Pornography, Masturbation, and Sex

Pornography, Masturbation and Sex have overtime, become one of the greatest tools which the devil employs to destroy people. Individuals have thus found themselves helpless and hapless in curbing and controlling their coital urge. Tough as it may be to control one’s sexual desire, here are five things you can do to stem the tide;

1. Talk To God About It: This surely should be the first step in coming out of dire situations. You need to talk to God about it because at the end of the day, He is the only one that can truly help you.

2. Avoid Touching Sensitive Parts of Your Body: Everyone of us has a sensitive part of our body, otherwise known as ‘sexual hot spots’. It is important we know which part of our body turns us on mostly, when touched. Generally, the nipples, penis, breast etc are sexual hot spots. Thus, you should avoid touching the parts of your body that turn you on easily.

3. Avoid Reading and Watching Sexually Stimulating Articles, Images and Videos : Sexual articles or stories create images of sexual scenes in  the mind which in turn stimulate emotions in individuals. The same principle applies to sexually explicit pictures. Similarly, sexually explicit videos (porn) stimulate masturbation and some of them have negative spiritual implications. Thus, they should be avoided.

4. Avoid Friends That Always Talk About Sex: You are what you listen to, a popular adage says. One way to control addiction to sex and sexual content is to avoid gatherings and people that always talk about sex. This is because the more you keep listening to sexual talk, the more stimulated you become.

5. Read Articles/Books and Watch Videos That Can Help You: This is also important as it enables you discover several other ways to control your sexual urge.

Addiction is a pretty normal occurrence in the life of a human being. Never loathe yourself because of your addiction because every problem always has a solution. The big question is are you ready to take pragmatic steps towards applying the solution? The results of the steps you may take would most times,  not yield a complete result immediately because addictions take time to stop.


5 Other Ways to Prevent Pregnancy without Condom

When it comes to having protected S3@.x:’, the truth is that many people are more concerned about not getting pregnant than S3@.x:’ually transmitted diseases (STDs). Especially among young people who are not really very conscious of the implications of STDs, the focus is on ensuring that there is not repercussion 9 months after tumbling in bed N@kkd.

While many people have turned to condoms for refuge, it must be noted that there are other ways a S3@.x:’ually active couple – married or single, can prevent unwanted pregnancies from happening as discussed by The Health Site. Though condoms have been proven to be 98% effective when used correctly, some people find them uncomfortable.

Also, when there is a certainty that there are no STD risk, some people see no reason for a condom and then they use these methods:

1. Oral contraceptive pills (OCPs) – these are also called ‘birth control pills’. A woman needs to take these pills regularly to prevent pregnancy. They work in two ways: some prevent the release of an ovum from the ovary while others secrete thick mucus that prevent contact between sperm and egg.

2. Copper T – this is a type of intrauterine contraceptive device that is placed inside the uterus of the woman. The device prevents the implantation of a fertilized egg.

3. V@.g!nal bolus – this is a large tablet that you can insert into the V@.g!na about 30 minutes before S3@.x:’. The tablet contains a spermicidal compound that that prevents pregnancy.

4. Depot Medroxyprogesterone Acetate (DMPA) injection – this is an intramuscular injections that is taken every 3 months to prevent pregnancy.

5. Morning After Pills – this is an emergency contraceptive method that is swallowed orally not more than 72 hours after the unprotected S3@.x:’ happens.


What You Didn’t Know About Anal Sex

“First it was shocking, then it was having a cultural moment, now it’s practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoire—or so a quick scan of any media, from P0*n to HBO, will tell you,” the Goop editors wrote in the introduction.

While research suggests an*l isn’t quite as prevalent as pop culture might suggest—a 2016 study found that just 12.2% of American women had done it within the last three months—there’s no question curiosity about the backdoor position has grown.

“Let’s face it, the anus was not made for intercourse. It’s supposed to be a one-way passage,” Dr. Streicher points out. The v**ina, on the other hand, “has a thick, elastic, accordion-like lining designed to stretch to accommodate a man-hood, or a baby.”

Rectal tissue is thinner and doesn’t share the same elasticity, so there’s a greater chance it can tear, says Dr. Streicher, who is the author of s*x Rx. And tearing increases your odds of contracting a sexually transmitted infection.

Rectal gonorrhea, an*l chlamydia, and HIV are all real risks. According to the United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “an*l s*x is the highest-risk s*xual behavior for HIV infections.” But an*l s*x is perhaps most likely to transmit the human papillomavirus (HPV). “Very few heterosexual men have HIV, but over half of men have HPV,” says Dr. Streicher. HPV can cause an*l warts and an*l cancer.

What’s more, she points out, you’re probably not going to get screened for an*l STIs at your doctor—unless he or she specifically asks if you’re having an*l s*x (unlikely) or you specifically request those tests.

Then there’s pain, bleeding, and fecal incontinence. “Poop in your pants is not a nice thing to talk about,” says Dr. Streicher. She points to new research from a team at Northwestern University that found that women who considered an*l part of their regular bedroom behavior were more likely to say it changed the consistency of their stools, and report both urinary and fecal incontinence.

But if you’re interested in trying an*l s*x, or giving it another whirl with your partner, what’s the safest way? Use protection no matter what, says Dr. Streicher. “As a gynecologist, I tell people even if you are in a monogamous relationship, you should always use a condom for an*l s*x.” And if you have vaginal s*x after an*l, have your partner put on a new condom to protect against the likelihood of a urinary tract infection.


Although anal sex can be pleasurable, this doesn’t erase the fact that the main purpose of the anus is to excrete fecal matter. So it make sense that some people are naturally worried about any messy issues that may arise.

Most people can have safe anal sex as along as they empty their bowels up to a few hours before anal sexual activity. There is a small chance that some fecal matter can come into contact with your toy or partner’s penis. If you want to feel more assured, you can purchase an anal douche and fill it with warm water to rinse out your anus over the toilet before engaging in sex.


Aside from taking the safety precautions discussed above, you’ll also want to consider using condoms. Not only do condoms make it easier to clean up, but they prevent you from spreading STIs such as HIV and HPV, which are actually more easily transmitted through anal sex than vaginal penetration.


Although you’ll commonly see ass-to-mouth or ass-to-vagina in porn, this isn’t a safe practice because it moves the bacteria that’s normally inside the anus to other parts of the body. This can lead to bacterial infections. 


“Medically there no reasons not to have anal sex. Just follow safer sex practices as you’re at a slightly higher risk for STI transmission. You also have to be mindful though of not having anal sex then vaginal sex without changing the condom.” —Michael Krychman

“From a medical standpoint, anal sex is safe if you take the usual safe-sex precautions , such as condoms and dental dams, and loads of lube, since the anus is typically much tighter than the vagina. Many women enjoy anal play due to the incredibly rich nerve supply and heightened sensitivity and the added bonus of not having to worry about getting pregnant. On the flip side, many women are really turned off by anal sex and the fear of soiling themselves. Washing well and/or using an enema beforehand is an option that would make this less likely.” —Alyssa Dweck

“Anal sex is so pleasurable to many women because our bodies really do have a very, very rich cluster of nerves surrounding the anus. There’s a reason why we like to be kissed on our lips more than on maybe our elbow, because our lips have more nerve endings. That said, if you’re engaging in anal sex, you have to take more precautions from an STD standpoint. If you’re not in a mutually monogamous relationship then you should absolutely be using condoms for protection. Any time people have intercourse, even vaginal, there could be microscopic tears, which is how people catch viral STDs. But if you use lubricant, you’ll reduce those tears, which could decrease your risk of transmitting a viral STD.” —Jennifer Gunter

“One concern about anal sex is related to the transmission of HPV. Certain strains of HPV do cause cancer, and with anal intercourse, HPV infections in this area can lead to anal cancer. There have been studies documenting that people who have had anal penetration by multiple partners are more likely to develop carcinoma of the anus, so be monogamous and use a condom. Other reasons to proceed with caution with anal sex is the risk of infection with E. coli. You can also develop urinary tract infections, as well as infections of the bowel from anal intercourse. Repetitive tearing and injury to muscles of the anus can affect someone’s ability to control their bowel movements, and can result in fecal incontinence or inability to hold stool effectively inside, until they make it to the bathroom. Although not common, a more serious injury such as a penetration or tear in the colon or bowel can occur, which would require an invasive surgery to correct.” —Karen Elizabeth Boyle

“Anal sex play cannot cause pregnancy, but it can easily pass infection. So if a condom breaks during anal sex, talk to a health care provider or your nearest Planned Parenthood health center about STD testing . If you’re mainly having anal sex as a method of birth control, you can talk to the doctors while you’re there about getting on birth control so you don’t have to worry about pregnancy.” —Vanessa Cullins


The Truth About BDSM

BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences. Most of the time, a person’s interests fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them. Here are certain facts about BDSM.

1. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can. Most people think BDSM is always tied to sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two. “Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot of very strong feelings in people who practice them, but they’re not the same thing,” says Thorn. The metaphor she uses for it: a massage. Sometimes a massage, however sensual it feels, is just a massage. For others, a rubdown pretty much always leads to sex. It’s kind of similar with BDSM; it’s a matter of personal and sexual preference.

2. BDSM encounters are called “scenes.” Again, since it isn’t always about intercourse, you wouldn’t necessarily say that you “had sex” or “hooked up” with someone after a BDSM experience. Instead, these are called scenes (like, you scened with someone or you had a scene).
“It’s an evolution from a time where, if you did S&M, you might only do it with a professional for an hour, or you might just see it performed at a BDSM club,” says Brame. “Now people have much more organic relationships, but they still call it a scene — the time when we bring out the toys or get into that headspace.”

3. There are dominants, submissives, tops, and bottoms. So you’ve probably heard about dominants and submissives (if not, the dominant enjoys being in charge, while the submissive enjoys receiving orders). But BDSMers may also use the terms “tops” and “bottoms” to describe themselves. A top could refer to a dominant or a sadist (someone who enjoys inflicting pain), while a bottom could refer to a submissive or a masochist (someone who enjoys receiving pain). This allows you to have a blanket term for those who generally like being on either the giving or receiving end in a BDSM encounter. And there’s no rule that says you can’t be both dominant and submissive in different circumstances or with different partners.

4. It’s not as spontaneous as Hollywood movies or porn make it out to be. Getting swept up in the moment and accidentally stumbling into a millionaire’s red room (where you’ll have multiple orgasms) is probably not going to happen to you ever. But, that’s not necessarily a bad thing. “The sexual fantasy makes everything look so easy,” says Brame. “People who actually do this stuff are very cautious about it. It has to be the right place and right time and right equipment. And you have to know you can get the person out [of whatever bondage] if there’s an emergency. You have to feel you can trust the person.” So there’s a lot that goes into one scene, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less satisfying for those who enjoy it.

5. There’s actually a pre-negotiation period, where the partners discuss what they like, what they don’t like, and what they absolutely will not tolerate.
Think of this as the primer before the scene. “It’s a way of discussing the experience ahead of time that can increase emotional security,” says Thorn. This can involve anything from scripts and checklists to a more informal discussion of what each person’s expectations are for the scene, what they want and don’t want, and any words or actions that are completely off-limits.

6. Know that you can always say no. A lot of people starting out think it’s ‘all or nothing,’ especially if you’ve only been with one partner,” says Thorn. For instance, you might think that because you enjoyed being submissive under certain circumstances, that means you must agree to a whole host of submissive or masochistic behaviors that you’re not necessarily into. But that’s absolutely wrong. You can — and should — pick and choose which BDSM activities you are and are not interested in, says Thorn. And that can vary depending on the situation, the partner, or even the day. Just remember that consent is a requirement in BDSM, and it’s possible to consent to one thing while still objecting to another.


Water Works Wonders

If you automatically assume you’re drinking enough water, without being intentional about how much you drink, then you probably aren’t.

Counting coffee (or tea or juice) as a good water replacement, because it’s made with water, is also a huge mistake! Yes, our bodies will extract the water from those things – if you were stranded on a dessert island, those things would keep you alive.
But your goal shouldn’t be “stay alive” while surrounded by accessible water. Your goal should be “feel great”. The extra burden we put on or bodies, of processing coffee, tea, juice and especially pop, takes away from some of the amazing benefits you could be seeing if you drank plain water instead.

If you feel great all the time, have lots of energy, are rarely thirsty, and pee often – very light colored or clear pee – then you might actually be getting enough water.
If you are tired, have headaches, digestive issues, muscle aches and pains, trouble sleeping, or dull / dry skin, you probably aren’t getting enough. Water should be the first thing you turn to for health improvement.
Find your bare minimum water intake by dividing your weight (in pounds) in two and THAT is how many ounces of water you should be taking in daily (minimum). So a 160 lb person actually needs 80 ounces of water, which would be TEN 8 oz glasses of water in the day.
If you are very physically active or breastfeeding you will need MORE water.

It really is a miracle drink.

So I was really fortunate to get into the water drinking habit young. I can honestly say that I feel good most of the time. I am not generally tired, I have good skin, I don’t battle my weight. (I didn’t really realize how rare of a thing this was!)
(There are other factors to this too; I try to keep my sugar intake down, I do cardio regularly, and I try to eat whole foods and take good quality supplements. But I am still firmly convinced that water is the foundation for the health of my body.)

When I don’t drink water during the day, I feel crappy that evening. My body is addicted to water! (Well, it’s addicted to knowing what our bodies are supposed to feel like.)

Should you start drinking more water?
I approached the whole “drinking water thing” with one of my favorite life principles: What have I got to lose? Why not try it? And I think that’s how you should approach it too.

I will point out though, that if you are blessed to live in a country where water is free and plentiful, then you have nothing to lose by giving it a shot. If you drink 8 8oz glasses of water a day for a month and you don’t see a single improvement in your health, then quit if you don’t like it.
The body is more than 75% water. (Blood is more than 90% water!) If you can’t see why it would be necessary to make sure your body has enough water to function properly, I can’t imagine what I could possibly say to change your mind.
If you don’t want to drink more water, then don’t.
But if you DO wanna drink more water, just to see if you can reap some of the benefits of drinking water) and just can’t seem to get it done, well, that’s another thing.

Great ways to get yourself to drink more water

Drinking water is a good habit, and like all good habits, you just gotta work on developing it. Do whatever it takes!

I am not a sipper. Never have been. If I relied on sipping water all day to get enough in, it wouldn’t ever happen. But I can stand at the sink and down a glass of water in about 10 seconds. So (when I’m at home), I’ve developed the habit of chugging glasses of water. One first thing in the morning (- that really wakes me up). One as soon as I walk in the door. And about 6 more during the time I get home from work until the time I go to bed. (To where I also take a glass of water, and if I wake up in the night, I have it there with me.) I drink more than the 8 glasses per day, for sure.
#Take it with you. (I never leave the house without a bottle of water. We have 5 of these freaking awesome water bottles and we both take water with us each day to work.)
#Set a timer on your phone, for every hour. Drink when it goes off. (OR download an app – I know they’re out there!)
#Start a water drinking challenge with some friends (to keep you accountable). Here’s a (free) pretty printable you can use to keep track.

#If you can’t stand the taste of plain water, adding squeezed lemon juice or cucumber slices won’t hurt. 



Have you taken a cup of coffee today?

It’s more or less human nature to have a vice or two. Some of us like a cocktail on Friday evenings, some spend more money on clothes than we’d like to admit, and others just can’t pass a bakery window without getting something. There’s one supposed vice, however, that most of us fall victim to every single day: a cup (or two, or three) of coffee to start off our morning, perk us up in the afternoon, or to sip after a great meal with friends.

While many believe coffee to be less-than-ideal when it comes to our health, an ever-growing body of research reveals that coffee can actually do a lot more than give you a buzz. That pot of coffee you wake up to every morning can not only help you lose weight, it may be capable of halting cancer growth, fighting tooth decay, and could even help stave off cognitive decline as we age. So bring on the lattes, the cold brew, the cappuccinos, and the shots of espresso, and enjoy them.

1. AIDS IN WEIGHTLOSS : You don’t have to change your whole routine just to lose weight — your coffee habit may be getting you there quicker than you think. Research reveals that study participants given green coffee exact lost significantly more weight than those given a placebo.

2. IMPROVES METABOLISM: Give your metabolism a boost by adding a cup of coffee to your morning routine. The caffeine in your morning cup of joe can provide a bit of a metabolic boost, helping you become a lean, mean, fat-burning machine.For more ways to boost your metabolism

3. IMPROVES DIGESTION: Keeping your digestive tract moving is essential to your overall health and coffee can help you reach that goal. Coffee is a great way to keep your digestive tract chugging along at a steady clip, reducing your risk of intestinal perforation and certain digestive diseases.

4. IT INCREASES ENERGY : What would you do with an extra hour each day? The boost of energy coffee can provide you can help you enjoy a more productive day, help you get out of bed easier, and get your work done faster.

5. REDUCES RISK OF GOUT : The build-up of uric acid in your body known as gout is a painful condition most of us would be eager to avoid. Luckily, it’s also preventable. Coffee has been shown to cut your risk of developing gout, so don’t kick that caffeine habit just yet.

6. IT INCREASES BRAIN FUNCTION: Boosting the health of your brain can be as simple as adding coffee to your regular routine. Coffee is a great way to improve your energy and circulation, making it an easy way to improve your cognitive function, too.

7. IT IMPROVES YOUR MOOD: Looking to perk up a blue day? Start with some mood-boosting coffee. Even smelling coffee can give you a rush of endorphins and dopamine, making it a great way to bounce back from a bad day.

8. MAKES YOU MORE ALERT : Having trouble waking up in the morning? A cup of coffee is a great way to fight fatigue and improve alertness. While drinking the whole pot won’t do you any favors, a single cup can help increase your alertness and get you through the day.

9. REDUCES HUNGER : Feeling famished? Try enjoying some coffee before you start hunting for snacks. Coffee can help reduce hunger signals, helping you say no to that box of donuts in the break room



Tips to reduce hand pain while using your life

Stop the activity that’s aggravating things. Stay away from your device for a while or take frequent breaks. “It’s okay to put your phone down. We shouldn’t be slaves to the machine,” Dr. Meredith Osterman, a physician at the Philadelphia Hand Center, said at a conference in Kenya recently.

Use voice-to-text feature on your phone to give your fingers a break from typing.Try typing with a stylus to cut down on the repetitive motion for your thumb.
Switch hands so that one hand isn’t doing all the work.
Place your phone on a table and type from there. “The worst position is where you’re holding it in one hand, palming it in your hand, and then using your thumb to do everything,” Osterman said. “Any position where the phone is at rest…is going to be less irritating.”

Try not to use the same muscles for other activities. For example, texting and then playing video games may not be a good idea.If rest and ice don’t get rid of the pain, treatment options include putting the patient in a little splint that immobilises the area for a few weeks and rests the tendons, or injecting medicine around the tendons to break up some of the inflammation, Osterman noted. Some people need surgery but that’s “very few and far between,” she added.

If you feel a sharp shooting or burning pain, or numbness and tingling, it could mean a problem related to injuring a nerve, which can be harder to treat.
Bottom line: give your hands a break.