Disagreements are normal, healthy parts of life. We experience disagreements when our thoughts and feelings don’t align with the other person’s point of view. But disagreeing with our friends, coworkers and family members can actually be good for us! Clinical psychologist Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. talked about what he calls the eighty-five percent rule . He… Continue reading The Art Of Disagreeing: How To Disagree With People Respectfully
You’ve probably heard a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and how they hold you back from doing the things you want the most. Most people have a lot of limiting beliefs that affect their career, health, and current relationships negatively. But when it comes to single people who are looking for love, having their… Continue reading How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs : 5 Types of Limiting Beliefs That Single People Have
“Couples who argue a lot might love each other deeply”. At a first glance, this statement looks all shades of weird, right? I thought so too but like I’ll always say; understand before you criticize. It took me quite some time to really grasp the sense around this statement but experience came to the rescue.… Continue reading 5 Reasons Why Arguments Are Good For A Relationship
Cheating, even with how heartbreaking it is, has unfortunately become a common phenomenon in relationships. In a perfect world, no one would cheat and relationships would have a complete season of bliss, devoid of suspicion and unfaithfulness but alas, welcome to reality. You know, I was a bit confused at first, as to how to… Continue reading What To Do If Your Spouse Cheats On You: Handling The Pain Of Unfaithfulness
"Men are polygamous in nature". It struck me like lightning when I first heard someone make this statement. I felt it was another case of people trying to rationalize a perceived wrongdoing. What was more surprising was to see some women speak in defence of this statement. In defence of the 'men are polygamous by… Continue reading Are Men Really Polygamous By Nature?
Relationships fail. Jobs fail. Families fail. Marriages fail. Friendships fail. Health fails. In the midst of the hurt and disappointment we endure day in and day out, there is a hope, a security, and a support system in Christ that will never leave us, or forsake us. There is a love from the kingdom of… Continue reading Love Never Fails
When anger takes root in our lives, everyone and everything suffers as a result. Keeping tabs on the mistakes our loved ones have made, and allowing anger to take root in our lives are two toxic habits that will eliminate love from your life sooner than you think. Forgive your loved ones, and choose… Continue reading Love Is Not Easily Angered
So often in life we subconsciously delight in the failures of others. I'm sure you're familiar with the quote, "Hurt people, hurt people." If we're being honest, we've all felt a little bigger when someone we don't particularly like doesn't succeed. Competition in the body of Christ is just as present as it is… Continue reading Love Rejoices With The Truth
Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.
The thought of February 14 ignites the flame of love in the hearts of many. Its usually seen as a `Love and Romance Certified day'. Many guys have a tendency of looking for ways to break-up before this day in order to avoid spending ton of cash while some other willing spenders desperately go in… Continue reading Inspirational Love Quotes For Valentine’s Day
The term Love cannot be boxed into one definition. Everyone choose what it means to them and how they express it. Away from the societal definition, I decided to undertake a scholarly view of love- how it comes and what it means- in order to see love from different perspectives. Join me on this journey as wr learn from two schools of thought; the philosophers and the psychologists.
Overtime, we've been inundated with stories of 'and they lived happily ever after'. As far as I'm concerned that statement is nothing but a myth. Truthfully, there are no 'happily ever after' love stories because love can be painful. It requires perseverance to go through the pain of loving someone. People tend to have this image of love being an all rosy affair where you find yourself locked in a perpetual state of happiness. Thanks to the fairy love tales we grew up listening to.
Have you ever regretted decisions that have reshaped your life, whether for better or for worse? At a recent get-together with a couple of friends, we became so relaxed, some of us started discussing our dead marriages. Out of about 12 of us in the group, only three were currently in their ‘husbands’ homes, we’ve… Continue reading Tales of a City Girl- Good People Bad Decisions
Before putting my pen to paper, I floated the idea of the termination of bride price payment before a random cross-section of people of different age groups and traditional and educational leanings. Most of the responses I got toed the line of How dare you! bordering on even the mere thought of it being an anathema. I am utterly astonished that even educated folks who should be more enlightened, having gone through the scholastic rigours of the Ivory Tower, including and especially youths like me, have a hard time questioning the status quo. Its amazing how people just take traditions that have been handed down for generations and continue to propagate them without stopping to think about why exactly we do what we do.
Everyone, no matter how bad you think the person is, deserves to be in a relationship. However, the reality of the matter is that no everyone is able to stay in one. Even with the several articles on red flags on a first date, people still go into relationships which do not eventually pass the test of time. So, on one hand there are things to watch out for before dating a person and on the other hand there are factors that can help you make an informed decision before you eventually say “I do”.