Our selfishness is bound to be apparent to others as well. One study has shown that patients who used more first-person pronouns (I and me) during therapy sessions had a higher incidence of depression while other research found that people suffering from social anxiety manifest more exaggerated self-attention. Once we understand the physiological reason behind our selfishness and how it negatively affects us, we have to start combating it.
Forego resting on the couch and express yourself in a meaningful way! What does your soul want to say? You don’t have to go out and sing for all the world to hear, but if singing uplifts you, make room for it. Sing, paint, create, compose, write, connect--your insight matters. Your voice needs expression!