Relationship

What Does Love Mean To You

Love means a lot of things to a lot of people but have you ever asked yourself what love means to you? How do you show love  and to whom do you show love? We been taught about love languages but its application seems to be limited to romantic love and love shown to someone you know but we were not born to love only those we know, we also have the capacity  to love even those that we don’t know.

 Practically ,I think the best example of love was shown by God who sent his ‘ONLY’ son to die for a world of people who cared more or less about him. God didn’t specify who Jesus should die for, rather He sent Jesus to die for all and sundry. Even Jesus, with  all the things that men did to him, still decided to let his life down for men, both those he knew and those he didn’t know? What greater way to show love than this? A young man once said the true measure of a man’s character is how he treats people he doesn’t know and not how he treats people he knows.

It will surprise you to find out that many folks  do not know what love means. A friend of mine once defined love as ‘a feeling you feel when you feel you’ve not felt a feeling like that before’. Someone once said there’s no magic in the world as great as the magic of love. Love really can be defined in a thousand ways.

One question  I ask myself is how do we fall in love? What makes us fall in love? Contrary to popular view,  there’s no such thing called ‘Love at first sight. It’s a very big lie. What many people  experience is really called infatuation. Now what is infatuation? Oxford dictionary defines it as “an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something”. Also, urban dictionary defines it as “people thinking they are in love but when indeed it is just a deep lust or like for another person”. Unlike love which sees  a person’s flaws and still accepts the person that way, infatuation doesnt even recognise the flaw, at least in most cases. How in the world do you expect to fall in love with someone on your first sight? Now this doesnt mean infatuation is an evil thing or it cant grow into love. Certainly, you can grow to love the person with time. 

So then, falling in love is a gradual process that takes time and understanding. People who have been married for a long time still get to fall in  love with each other as time goes on because no matter how hard you try, you can never know everything about a person. Sometimes, we do not choose who we fall in love with but we have the power to choose who we stay in love with. In other words, we may not have the power to control how we feel but we sure have the power to control how we react to those feelings. I’ve found myself stuck in love with an ex-lover. It seemed  to me as though I couldn’t just  help loving her, despite all the things she did to me but I realised that I had the power to control my attitude to those feelings. So I decided that I may love her, I may think about her but I will not contact her and I will keep a good distance between us. Yes, I had the power to do that. In other words,we choose who we show love to.

 Today would not be complete if you don’t show love to someone you don’t know.Show love to that person in need. Remember love is patient, Love is kind and Love is felt most when its genuine. Show that special person genuine love!!!

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