I don’t believe we can spot a narcissist, or not all of them, as they are simply too cunning. I should know, as I was married to a narcissist, and survived just . My husband, a CFO of a Global Bank, good looking, popular, clever, and charming, was an acute narcissist. He never raised his… Continue reading Four Stages Of A Relationship With A Narcissist
Relationships go through several stages , and your ability to identify and handle each stage will determine the success or failure of your relationship . The chances are good that you have already failed in both the beginning stages and the later stages, so if you want to make your current relationship or future relationship… Continue reading How To Identify Different Stages In A Relationship
Some women in the society today seem to prefer to remain single, as a result of the recent spate of lazy guys who prefer to depend on their wives rather work and be the breadwinners in their home. The continuous rise of women's rights has been part of the impetus for the lack of interest… Continue reading 7 Reasons Why Some Women Remain Single
You’ve probably heard a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and how they hold you back from doing the things you want the most. Most people have a lot of limiting beliefs that affect their career, health, and current relationships negatively. But when it comes to single people who are looking for love, having their… Continue reading How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs : 5 Types of Limiting Beliefs That Single People Have
“Couples who argue a lot might love each other deeply”. At a first glance, this statement looks all shades of weird, right? I thought so too but like I’ll always say; understand before you criticize. It took me quite some time to really grasp the sense around this statement but experience came to the rescue.… Continue reading 5 Reasons Why Arguments Are Good For A Relationship
Relationships fail. Jobs fail. Families fail. Marriages fail. Friendships fail. Health fails. In the midst of the hurt and disappointment we endure day in and day out, there is a hope, a security, and a support system in Christ that will never leave us, or forsake us. There is a love from the kingdom of… Continue reading Love Never Fails
When anger takes root in our lives, everyone and everything suffers as a result. Keeping tabs on the mistakes our loved ones have made, and allowing anger to take root in our lives are two toxic habits that will eliminate love from your life sooner than you think. Forgive your loved ones, and choose… Continue reading Love Is Not Easily Angered
So often in life we subconsciously delight in the failures of others. I'm sure you're familiar with the quote, "Hurt people, hurt people." If we're being honest, we've all felt a little bigger when someone we don't particularly like doesn't succeed. Competition in the body of Christ is just as present as it is… Continue reading Love Rejoices With The Truth
Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.
The thought of February 14 ignites the flame of love in the hearts of many. Its usually seen as a `Love and Romance Certified day'. Many guys have a tendency of looking for ways to break-up before this day in order to avoid spending ton of cash while some other willing spenders desperately go in… Continue reading Inspirational Love Quotes For Valentine’s Day
The term Love cannot be boxed into one definition. Everyone choose what it means to them and how they express it. Away from the societal definition, I decided to undertake a scholarly view of love- how it comes and what it means- in order to see love from different perspectives. Join me on this journey as wr learn from two schools of thought; the philosophers and the psychologists.
Overtime, we've been inundated with stories of 'and they lived happily ever after'. As far as I'm concerned that statement is nothing but a myth. Truthfully, there are no 'happily ever after' love stories because love can be painful. It requires perseverance to go through the pain of loving someone. People tend to have this image of love being an all rosy affair where you find yourself locked in a perpetual state of happiness. Thanks to the fairy love tales we grew up listening to.
Have you ever regretted decisions that have reshaped your life, whether for better or for worse? At a recent get-together with a couple of friends, we became so relaxed, some of us started discussing our dead marriages. Out of about 12 of us in the group, only three were currently in their ‘husbands’ homes, we’ve… Continue reading Tales of a City Girl- Good People Bad Decisions
Before putting my pen to paper, I floated the idea of the termination of bride price payment before a random cross-section of people of different age groups and traditional and educational leanings. Most of the responses I got toed the line of How dare you! bordering on even the mere thought of it being an anathema. I am utterly astonished that even educated folks who should be more enlightened, having gone through the scholastic rigours of the Ivory Tower, including and especially youths like me, have a hard time questioning the status quo. Its amazing how people just take traditions that have been handed down for generations and continue to propagate them without stopping to think about why exactly we do what we do.
The world has become so complex today that to actually find a partner who doesn’t cheat is becoming increasingly tougher by the day. Truthfully, no one goes into a relationship with a guy/girl who would cheat on them. For example, 70% of the ladies I speak to, tell me that their greatest turn off in a relationship is a guy who cheats. Now do not get me wrong, I’m in no way implying that its only guys that cheat, ‘cos we all know that both guys and girls cheat alike. However, it’s really not easy to spot a cheater, as there’s no sure-fire way to know who would and would not cheat/. Relationships vary and people have several reasons why they cheat.
Marriage they say is not bed of roses. You have to keep working at it to make it work. Your marriage would turn out as beautiful as you make it. Trust, Understanding, Love,etc. are some of the basic ground rules that can make a marriage work. However, there are other activities that you can enagage in to make that marriage to work and rock.
Sometimes it seems like it just can’t happen – especially when you consider yourself to be a “relationship person.” It almost feels like a part of you is missing even though you know that’s absurd logic. So, instead of beating yourself down for wanting a relationship, focus on taking advantage of the time you have by yourself so you can be 100% ready to roll when you do find your certain special human. Not only will you feel more confident about your current relationship status NOW, but you’ll also be better off LATER.
Now, it seems quite ironical that trust should be central to such a concept as pretence because the two seem to harbour mutual animosity. Im sure, however, that even you reading this would, at one time or the other, have dealt in pretence, prevarication, or even outright lying to someone just cause you knew they trusted you enough to hang on to your every word. Thus, I dont need to remind you that the trust they had in you was the very reason you got away with that act.
One of the best pieces of relationship advice I’ve come across goes thus: “A great relationship doesn’t happen because of the love you had in the beginning but how well you continue building love until the end”. Thus, the first step in building a great relationship is finding the right person. As such, in bid to avoid a wrong and abusive relationship, some folks tend to look forward to finding the ‘perfect one’ but as you would have come to learn, this is just a myth.
Love means a lot of things to a lot of people but have you ever asked yourself what love means to you? How do you show love and to whom do you show love? We been taught about love languages but its application seems to be limited to romantic love and love shown to someone you know but we were not born to love only those we know, we also have the capacity to love even those that we don't know.