How To Handle the Fear of Rejection


“Thank you for applying for this job but……” A lot of job seekers would be very familiar with this line, I guess. You know these days, you really do not need to open an email before you know whether or not your interview/test was successful. Once you check the preview and it starts with a line like that, most often than not, the news is always a negative one. This kind of situation has led many folks to the point of feeling rejected, which most times snowballs into depression. The fear of being rejected has made so many people lose vital opportunities. 

Truthfully, if you live long enough, you would get rejected at some point in your life. So, you have to accept the fact that not everyone would accept you for who you are or what you want. The feeling of rejection could come from different channels. It could come from your workplace, family or even friends. Some people who are divorced today walked out of their marriages simply because they felt rejected by their spouse. Don’t let the feeling of rejection keep you out of the game. We have all heard the success stories of Oprah, Bill Gates, JK Rowling, Michael Jordan, Madonna and a host of other celebrities or public figures who have sold millions over the last few years. It is a given that each one of these individuals all have success in common but did you know they also share one other common denominator? REJECTION!

– Oprah was fired from her job in television.

– Soichiro Honda was turned down from an engineering job in toyota

– Bill Gates was rejected by IBM.

– JK Rowling was denied by several book publishers.

– Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.

– Madonna was rejected by a movie producer.

How you handle rejection has the power to determine your destiny. Each one of these individuals could have chosen to live in defeat after their rejections; however, they chose to do what very few people do. They chose to keep going because they realized that if the worst had already happened, only the best was yet to come.

Rejection may just be the injection for your projection

Want to learn how you can turn your rejection into a life changing experience? Here are 5 ways you can use rejection to propel you to your destiny:

1. Refuse to Stop Pressing Forward: Never back down on the urge to press forward. Whatever you find yourself doing, press at it. People may mock you, scorn you etc. Take that as a propelling force and move forward.

2. Ignore Negativity: In today’s world, its almost easier to hear negativity than it is to hear positivity. This is one reason why you have to careful who you surround yourself with. You should learn to surround yourself with positive people, ‘cos I tell you, there’s a whole lot you can achieve with the positive vibe around you.

3. Refuse To Be Defined By Your No’s: Do you know that you can control what you do about your feelings? You may not be able to stop a few people from telling you ‘No’ but you can decide not to allow the ‘No’ stop you from doing  what you have to do. If you get a ‘No’ at point A, keep moving till you get  your YES. Your ‘YES’ may be yet to come but it will surely come.

4. Accept Rejection as God’s Protection: Difficult as it may be to accept, sometimes God allows us go through some pain at some point because He has a better plan.No pain No gain! In other words, rejection is not always a negative phenomenon. It may just be part of a larger picture that you’re not seeing. Ask the girl who is happily married today, who could have ended with the wrong guy, had he not told her ‘NO’. 

5. Don’t Sweat What You Can’t Control: You know I’ve learnt to live the ‘Let-go’ life and it has been an awesome experience.  You should try it. Folks, there are some things that you just cant change. When you are faced with a situation, give it all you can and when it doesnt seem to go your way, take the lessons from the class and move on. Its not that hard. It may be painful. It may hurt to move on, but you would surely find strength in your pain.

Do not despise the days of your little beginnings 


5 Reasons Why Some Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

Recently, there has been an upsurge in the campaign against abusive relationships. Despite the warcry against women staying in abusive relationships, some of them still choose to stay. I’ve really pondered and asked myself why some women choose to remain under such circumstances. Here are possible answers to the question on my mind:

1. Money: This seems to be about the greatest raison d’être that makes some women remain in broken relationship. They wrongly believe that it is better to suffer in wealth than to laugh in poverty.

2. No Where To Go: This especially applies to women who marry men in another country (possibly better than theirs) and move over there with him. They tend to manage the domestic abuse for the want of a better life where they are and possible lack of another place to stay in that location.

3. Inferiority Complex: Truthfully, some women stay in abusive relationships because they find themselves in an unfortunate situation where not too many men like them and the man they are with seems to be the only person who has ever shown them love but happened to have changed overtime. They forget that they can and will find love again, if only they decide to give love (outside the abusive relationship) another chance.

4. Fear of the Negative Effects of a Broken Home On Their Children: Some women believe that every child should be given the chance to experience both fatherly love and motherly love because a father and a mother both have different roles to play in the life of a child and it is almost impossible for one person to play both roles. Also, some women are not totally certain that they would be given full custody of the child or children, however the case may be. Now, a broken home sure has its negative impacts on the life of any child, albeit its not the best option.

5.Foolishness:This list would not be complete without this point. Aside from all the possible “beautiful” reasons for staying in an abusive relationship, some women stay as a result of intense and ample foolishness.

Whatever your reason is, however beautiful your excuse may be, staying in an abusive relationship is not and can never be an ideal thing to do because the negative effects (both on you and the kids) far outweigh the so-called ‘good’ reasons for staying in an abusive relationship.

Shun Imprudence!!!

Be Wise!!!

Say no to domestic abuse!!!

Quick Facts

  • Statistics gathered indicate domestic violence causes almost 100,000 days of hospitalization, 30,000 emergency room visits, 40,000 trips to the doctor every year, and 50% of all homeless women and their children are fleeing domestic violence.
  • In batterer’s groups over 50% of battering men came from backgrounds where the male in their family was either very violent or controlling.
  • 94% of victims are under age 18
  • 80% are under age 30
  • Less than 20% of battered women seek medical attention after any injury from abuse
  • Center for disease control estimates that out of 223 cases reviewed where battered women killed their abusers, 75% were in the middle of confrontation or assault